At the Crossroads of Love and Money: What Should You Choose?

Both relationships and money are important and play a vital role in our lives; for instance, without money, it'll be difficult to get by with anything in this world, and relationships stand as a force that helps us emotionally. Both can actually go hand in hand, and I must also say that it'll be difficult to sustain a relationship without money, and so money cannot feel enough if you are alone. Overall both are important, but then we've come to see people leave a relationship because of money; that's literally choosing money over a relationship they have with someone. Have I done that before, or has someone done such to me? Find out more about that below.

To start with it's worth knowing that I've never had to experience someone leaving me because of money. I don't pray I ever experience it; it's not like I'm rich, but then I just haven't had such an experience in my life. I've seen people have such experiences, and I must say from the look of things, it can be a very devastating experience. No one really deserves to go through such things, but then we can't neglect the fact that money is also important in relationships, and if someone is leaving you because you don't have it, maybe they're only focused on that or have other reasons.

On the other hand, I've actually left someone for what seems like it's because of money, but then I really won't say it's because of money. You see, during the course of my relationship with my ex, we reached a point where I just couldn't stand her again even though I still loved her, and to save myself from the hurt that comes from being with her and remaining in the relationship, I had no choice but to move away from the community in Lagos and move to the far north in Kano, just so I could stay away from her, and maybe that'll help me move on from her.

I remember one morning I told her I'd be moving down to Kano because I've secured a job there. She wasn't pleased with it and asked me not to accept the job but instead search for one around where we reside. I turned her down and moved there. Which, of course, she wasn't in agreement with. I remember she once called me and asked me to choose between the job and her, and I told her point blank that I'd be picking the job. I'm sure you might be thinking that I'm heartless, but then prior to me moving, she had cheated on me, which I caught her red-handed for. I forgave her, but that didn't stop her from continuing with the infidelity, and that's why I chose moving far away to get over her, which might to her seem like I left her because of a job or money.

Even though in the end I did lose her, that wasn't disappointing because that was my intention in the first place; the only painful aspect was how I actually didn't love the job or location in the first place but stayed because of my intention to end things with her. In the end, after about a year, I ended up resigning from the job and moving back to Lagos, where I currently reside and work.

My advice for anyone finding themselves at such a crossroads is to do what works for them, because no one knows the actual reason behind other things happening in such relationships, so do what's best for you, and if you end up getting burnt for your actions, then you should know you asked for it.

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