‎I Don’t Need Many Friends… Just One Who Won’t Leave When Life Gets Hard ‎ ‎

‎Hi Hive, ‎ ‎I don’t have a lot of friends, if I’m being honest. But.. ‎ https://img.leopedia.io/DQmNmxGjczjxoEx5wES3ratMo7wHUHRupVRwMrjyjohJBY9/IMG_20250904_160910_490.jpg

‎I have lost quite a few friends over time, and now I can literally count the real ones in my life on one hand. It’s not like I have never had people around me. Though I have get to met many, laughed with many, and shared moments with many but when it comes to those who truly stayed and show up when matters  then I will say the number is small. ‎ ‎And I have come to accept that. ‎ ‎Een though I won’t sit here and act like I’m saint, perfect or that I wasn’t part of the reason why some friendships didn’t last long. I have changed and so is my mindset too. And most importantly, my standards for friendship and the type of people I want around me have changed too. ‎ ‎People often say a good friend should be honest, loyal, kind and I agree because those are beautiful qualities of relationship after all. But it goes deeper than that for me even though I don’t really have a long list of requirements anymore. ‎ ‎In fact, I have just one. ‎ ‎Be there for me when I’m at my lowest. And that’s it. ‎ ‎Because from my own experience, I’ve seen how people gather around you when things are going well, when you’re winning, smiling, and everything looks good on the outside, you’ll have company,  even a lots at that. But when the moment of life hits harder, the silence becomes louder. ‎ ‎I’ve been there. ‎ ‎I have had moments where I was at one of the lowest points in my life, and not even a single person I called a friend reached out to ask if I was okay or give a helping hand. Not even the person I was emotionally closest to at the time. That experience is what really changed me and made me understand that not everyone who laughs with you truly stands with you or happy about your existence. ‎ ‎And since then, I have made a tough decision that I started letting people go especially those with bad and negative energy. Not out of anger, but out of clarity. Because I believe that anyone who  doesn't show up when you need them the most was never really there in the first place so I have to make that decision. ‎ ‎Pease don’t get me wrong, I still value honesty, loyalty, and kindness but to me, the real test of friendship is presence and most especially during the hard and tough times. ‎ ‎Because a true friend is not just someone who celebrates you but someone who sits with you when you’re broken and have nothing. ‎ ‎So at this point in my life, I’m not looking for many friends but I'm just looking for real ones. ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎

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