Reflection || The three months that changed everything.

I'm @techstyle how are you doing today, fasten your seat belt, I'm taking you along the memory lane and it's gonna be a long but interesting ride.

A few years ago, my life felt like a constant search with no clear direction. I had just graduated, full of hope like many young people stepping into the world, but reality quickly replaced that optimism with confusion. Every path I considered seemed uncertain, and every decision felt like a gamble. I found myself moving from one idea to another, chasing opportunities that promised financial stability but never truly aligned with who I was. It was a season of trial and error mostly error and it left me exhausted.

Looking back, I can clearly describe that period with one word: frustration. It wasn’t just a feeling; it became part of my identity. It showed up in my conversations, my silence, and even in the way people looked at me. There is a particular kind of discomfort that comes with being a young graduate who hasn’t “figured it out” yet. People may not say it directly, but their tone, their subtle expressions, and their questions carry a weight that is hard to ignore. You begin to feel like you are behind in life, like you are missing something everyone else has already discovered.

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I remember how traumatic it was comparing myself with others. Friends were landing jobs, starting businesses, or moving forward in ways that seemed impressive. Meanwhile, I felt stuck, trying everything and gaining little clarity. The pressure to succeed, especially financially, pushed me into decisions that were not always thoughtful. I was chasing outcomes rather than purpose, and that made the journey even more draining. But somewhere in the middle of that chaos, something shifted. It wasn’t dramatic or loud it was quiet, almost unnoticeable at first. It came as a moment of self-realization. I began to question why I was seeking validation from everyone else. Why did I need external approval to define my worth or direction? That question changed everything for me.

Instead of looking outward, I started looking inward. I took time to reflect on what truly came naturally to me, what I enjoyed doing even when there was no reward attached. And that’s when I noticed a pattern I had overlooked for years. I had always been someone who looked out for others, especially when it came to protecting their belongings or ensuring things were safe. It wasn’t something I did for recognition or money it was just part of who I was. That realization became the turning point. For the first time, I wasn’t chasing something because it looked good or paid well. I was choosing something because it aligned with me. I began to understand that fulfillment comes from building on your natural strengths, not from forcing yourself into spaces where you don’t belong.

Once I made that decision, the next step was clear: I needed to grow. It wasn’t enough to recognize my interest; I had to develop it into a skill. That’s when I decided to invest in learning. I enrolled in a cybersecurity training program, determined to transform what had once been an informal instinct into a professional capability. The experience was nothing short of transformative. The training was intense, structured, and practical. For three months, I immersed myself in learning understanding systems, identifying vulnerabilities, and developing the mindset required to protect digital environments. It wasn’t always easy. There were moments when the concepts felt overwhelming, and I questioned whether I was on the right path again. But this time, the difference was clear: I had purpose.

The instructors played a significant role in that journey. They were not just teachers; they were mentors who had real world experience and a deep understanding of the field. They challenged us to think critically, to ask questions, and to push beyond our limits. Their guidance helped me build confidence, not just in the technical skills I was acquiring, but in my ability to grow and adapt.

As the weeks passed, I began to see a change in myself. The same energy I once spent worrying and comparing was now focused on learning and improving. I started to enjoy the process, not just the outcome. Each new concept I understood felt like a small victory, and those victories added up. By the end of the program, I was no longer the same person who had walked in. I had gained knowledge, yes, but more importantly, I had gained clarity and direction. I had moved from uncertainty to purpose, from frustration to confidence. The journey that once felt scattered now had a sense of structure.

What stands out most to me when I reflect on this experience is the importance of self awareness. So often, we are taught to look outside ourselves for answers what is trending, what is profitable, what others are doing. But real growth begins when you take the time to understand yourself. What are your strengths? What are you naturally drawn to? What are you willing to commit to, even when it gets difficult? Another important lesson is the value of continuous learning. We live in a world that is constantly evolving, especially in technology. The skills that are relevant today may change tomorrow, and the only way to stay ahead is to remain open to learning, relearning, and even unlearning. Growth is not a one-time event; it is an ongoing process.

I also learned that success is not always immediate. It takes time, effort, and persistence. There will be moments of doubt, setbacks, and challenges, but those are part of the journey. What matters is your ability to stay focused and keep moving forward. Today, when I think about where I started and where I am now, I feel a deep sense of gratitude. Not just for the progress I have made, but for the lessons I learned along the way. The struggles, the confusion, and even the frustration all played a role in shaping my path.

If there is one message I would share with anyone reading this, it is this: don’t be afraid to pause and reflect. It is okay not to have everything figured out immediately. Take the time to understand yourself, to explore your interests, and to build on what comes naturally to you. And when you find that path, commit to it fully. In a world driven by technology, opportunities are everywhere. The digital space is vast, and there is room for anyone willing to learn and grow. Whether it is cybersecurity, software development, data analysis, or any other field, the key is to start. Dive in, stay curious, and be willing to adapt.

Your journey may not look like someone else’s, and that’s perfectly fine. What matters is that it is yours. Embrace it, learn from it, and let it guide you toward becoming the best version of yourself.

What am I saying? In a technologically driven world, dive into the ocean in tech and be willing to learn, relearn and unlearn. NEVER LIMIT YOURSELF BE AN ASSET CHOOSE TO STAY RELEVANT . #HAPPYSUNDAY

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