Making plans is not a good idea when your child is autistic and the word UNPREDICTABLE takes on as many meanings as life. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmPcGXtRGvKE9wj2CdYsvkqGW7VM8XLU1ZsD8GGBZE4kmu/img_20260410_102039.jpg) >Today had to be like every Friday: waking up, breakfast, personal hygiene, picking up the bed and, finally, going to the "workshop". It is a day of stories and puppets, and today it was my turn, in addition to being a mother, to be the volunteer who would share that time with the children. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmZo1aqzF39Mnf1Jf1MCLWfF2Cv41uGfZoxWY2pk5bQrHS/img_20260410_094344.jpg) The plan seemed to flow well until we had to cross the park, the central square of the city. I live very close and we always pass through it to get to the "little house". Anyway, today a great event was happening: music, balloons, colors and children performing songs and dances. That's as far as the plan went. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmYyxFXpMaQdV9xNxwPwpNzZhHycTzy8GtmqeaeCtwbyA3/img_20260410_101739.jpg) >Dylan loves these activities, he doesn't resist; He ran until he found a good place and there he was planted like a tree with strong roots. With great sadness, I called and warned that it would not arrive. It is good to know that in the little house we are like a family and the people who work there are prepared to assume these changes of plans and understand the situation in which I found myself; Despite that, I felt sorry. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmNTH4dM4CxjE7d4jf16hweACge2HdBBkMJrqS6Dh4ob94/img_20260410_101653.jpg) I know that someone will think that I should have stood firm and not given in to Dylan's will, but I am also sure that I will find more than one mother here who identifies with my story. Yes, I could be firm and force him to follow the plan, but that would lead to a tantrum, hitting himself, and it certainly wasn't a good time. Sometimes it is better not to be so strict. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmTfjbzFUdtyxHcDnNBqsxZouZxZoazbU3yFNiYFPZq5By/img_20260410_102044.jpg) >Of course, when the activity was over, I returned him home and explained that there would be no more walks today due to his behavior. I don't know if the decision was right or not, but I'm a mother, that's all. I have learned about autism by taking steps with my son and, although I have read and searched for information, I know that my only weapon is how much I love him and an immense dose of patience. Together we are learning to build the path. Thank you for reading and for sharing this moment with me. I will be attentive to your advice. A big hug to everyone! *** ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmakXP7KpSYiFhT8kE4nTDarAozzoLhC8BwuMrJR1Dekzd/azul_20y_20rosa_20moderno_20tecnolog_c3_ada_20electr_c3_b3nica_20y_20tecnolog_c3_ada_20retractable_20exhibic_20251026_022842_0000.png) *** Hacer planes no es buena idea cuando tu hijo es autista y la palabra IMPREDECIBLE cobra tantos significados como vida. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmPcGXtRGvKE9wj2CdYsvkqGW7VM8XLU1ZsD8GGBZE4kmu/img_20260410_102039.jpg) >Hoy debía ser como cada viernes: el despertar, el desayuno, el aseo personal, recoger la cama y, finalmente, ir camino a la "casa taller". Es día de historias y títeres, y hoy me tocaba a mí, además de ser mamá, ser la voluntaria que compartiría ese tiempo con los niños. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmVUz5jR7kEwnXjQMcGetaAd9rahC3a4nMmBSk6JqXcdY2/img_20260410_094342.jpg) El plan parecía fluir bien hasta que debimos atravesar el parque, la plaza central de la ciudad. Vivo muy cerca y siempre pasamos por ella para llegar a la "casita". En fin, hoy ocurría un gran evento: música, globos, colores y niños interpretando canciones y bailes. Hasta ahí llegó el plan. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmNTH4dM4CxjE7d4jf16hweACge2HdBBkMJrqS6Dh4ob94/img_20260410_101653.jpg) >Dylan adora esas actividades, no se resiste; corrió hasta encontrar un buen lugar y allí quedó plantado como un árbol de fuertes raíces. Con mucha pena, llamé y advertí que no llegaría. Es bueno saber que en la casita somos como una familia y las personas que trabajan allí están preparadas para asumir estos cambios de planes y comprender la situación en la que me encontraba; a pesar de eso, me sentí apenada. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmYyxFXpMaQdV9xNxwPwpNzZhHycTzy8GtmqeaeCtwbyA3/img_20260410_101739.jpg) Sé que alguien pensará que debí mantenerme firme y no ceder a la voluntad de Dylan, pero también estoy segura de que por aquí hallaré a más de una mamá que se identifique con mi historia. Sí, yo pude ser firme y obligarlo a seguir el plan, pero eso lo llevaría a una rabieta, a golpearse, y ciertamente no era un buen momento. A veces, es más conveniente no ser tan estrictos. ![](https://images.ecency.com/DQmexqz9Uvx3FMALmum3Xq5xgbYPVeKjyTPv45pUhMwBLhF/img_20260410_112023.jpg) >Claro, cuando terminó la actividad, lo regresé a casa y le expliqué que hoy ya no habría más paseo debido a su comportamiento. No sé si la decisión fue acertada o no, pero soy madre, solo eso. He aprendido del autismo dando pasos junto a mi hijo y, aunque he leído y buscado información, sé que mi única arma es lo mucho que lo amo y una inmensa dosis de paciencia. Juntos vamos aprendiendo a construir el camino. Gracias por leerme y por compartir este momento conmigo. Estaré atenta a sus consejos. ¡Un abrazo grande a todos! *** *** _{©Copyright 2026 Lizandra Lisy García Valdés. All rights reserved.} _{**Banners made in Canva**} *** *** _{©Copyright 2026 Lizandra Lisy García Valdés. 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