Assuming as it Pleases You - LOH #284

Confrontations for me, are one of the hardest things to deal with. I do not only hate it because of how unsettling it is, I hate it because if I’m asked a question that deviates from the script I already prepared in my head, to justify myself, I usually don’t have what to say in response. Rather than confront an individual, I’d leave them to assume whatever it is they want to assume and if I ever get a chance to prove myself, not because I want to impress them, they’ll get to see that most things weren’t really how they thought them to be.

I’m a huge fan of not forcing things. So, being the topic of discussion, in a gathering as lively as a party, would actually do something to me. My first reaction, would be to pause. A pause, to hear more, to see who is speaking, or to actually ponder on what exactly was said about me. While this would seemingly affect me for the moment, If it’s an aspect of me I know is untrue, I might continue going about my day without a care in the world, leaving them to their assumptions. For someone who tends to reflect on almost every action of hers, I acknowledge my wrongs a lot. While this is good, it has helped me know my stance in many situations. I know what exactly should get to me, and what should not.

If I know within myself, that that isn’t who I am, why should I bother with letting it get to me, this hindering myself from a time to be had? What’s even the guarantee that these people would listen to me, and actually believe what I have to say, if I try redeeming myself through a confrontation? These are questions I ask myself anytime I find myself in such situation, and i tell you, reminding myself of these, has made me realize how unnecessary confrontations usually are, in these situations.

Something similar occurred to me once, and when I looked to see who was speaking, it was actually someone who I’d had issues with. I didn’t even bother debunking what he said, or try redeeming myself, because I knew he wasn’t worth it. Most times, these people aren’t worth the stress of trying to refute their claims. People tend to believe what they want to believe so I’ll always choose to let them be. If our paths were to ever cross, they’ll probably see how wrong they were, believing what was said. For now, I’d focus more on spending my time and the energy, having the most fun at the party.

To answer the prompt, my reaction while at the party is certain - no confrontation. However, after the party, if those claims came from someone I was still in contact with, that signals the end of whatever relationship we both had. If it was from someone I had no business debunking his or her claims, we’d definitely continue our separate ways. Everyone is free to believe whatever they choose to believe. If a rumor stating derogatory things about me, is what you choose to believe, good and fine.

What people say about you, doesn’t define who you are, and that is something I follow dearly. Those derogatory statements, don’t make me less of who I am, nor does it make me better. So, rather than dedicating time and effort to debunking wrong claims, I’ll rather let things be, and focus on becoming who I want to be.

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