The Kind of Mother-in-Law I Hope to Be.Loh#284

Hi guys, welcome to my blog.

I have a son and someday I would be sharing my love with the woman he chooses to spend life with.

Before now, I have thought about the question what kind of mother-in-law would I be? And I honestly pray I live up to my resolve. Judging from the experience most woman experience from their mother in-law some of the experience are good, some not so good.

Honestly, I would want to change the narrative. I had a good relationship with my mother-in-law (late) she treated me with kindness. So I wouldn't want to treat my daughter differently.

I’m not perfect, and I don’t expect to be. But I do know that I want to create a safe and respectful space for my daughter-in-law.

First, I would respect boundaries. I won’t interfere unnecessarily in my son’s marriage. Their relationship is theirs to build, nurture, and grow. I’ll be there, but I won’t overstep.

Secondly, I would intentionally build a relationship with her. As women, we go through a lot, and marriage comes with its own challenges. I would want her to feel seen, supported, and not alone.

I would want to show up and help in practical ways and on sensitive times such as childbirth.

Another important thing for me is making sure my son treats her right. I would never support or tolerate a situation where she feels less than, restricted, or disrespected simply because she is married.

My daughter in-law is definitely going to enjoy me.

And while I may not have it all figured out, I truly hope I become the kind of mother-in-law who brings peace, not pressure...love, not control.

And yes… I also pray my son chooses a good woman because that matters too.