Asking for help; my take.

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Asking for help is not a bad thing and no man is an island. Once in a while we all need one type of help or the other. I am not the type that is big on asking for help and I don’t have an issue when people ask for help.

I am not the type that readily ask for help maybe because I am more of an independent person and sometimes I’d like to find my own way around things. Sometimes my asking for help also depend on the situation in question.

When it comes to things that have to do with financial help, I do not readily ask people for money because I actually hate to be a burden to other people. Somehow I know that other people have issues they are dealing with and being an additional burden can actually be a lot so before I can ask for assistance financially, I must have been in a situation where I have exhausted all my options.

If I still have my way around the situation, I will definitely try it to solve it my way but if I get trapped or feel that I can’t do it on my own alone, I am definitely not feeling too proud to ask for help, though not with an entitlement mentality.

For example last week I was very sick. Infact I had been having these symptoms for long and have been procrastinating on it partly because of the financial cost. I felt I wasn’t boyant enough to handle health related bills. We all know how much it can be sometimes.

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After I woke up sick on a Sunday morning and couldn’t go to church, I knew it was time to go to the hospital. I checked my financial prowess as at that time and from experience, I knew I couldn’t pull it off on my own. I had to reachout to my elder brother for help.

I wasn’t about to let pride rob me off of my health. I had to tell him that I haven’t been feeling too well and needed to go to the hospital. I also told him that the money I have won’t be enough that I would be needing financial assistance if he has.

He told me to go and keep him posted. Which I did and he helped out with taking care of the drugs which was over fifty thousand Naira while I took care of the lab, scan and transportation. At a point I needed to buy extra drugs and also had to reach out to a friend and my cousin and they supported their own little way too.

I did all that asking with humility knowing that they don’t owe me anything. I only entreated them that if they have and can help me that I would be glad as I explained the situation to them. I didn’t feel that they must help me or that it’s their responsibility cause it’s not.

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The thing I hate about asking for help is that some people do so with an entitlement mentality, where they feel you owe them something or that you must help them without even finding if you are in the place to do so.

I have been in situations where people asked me for money and I was barely getting by and the way they do so is so annoying that you wouldn’t even want to help even if you had it. Or do I mentioned the fact that they keep begging all the time. That’s so annoying. It’s like some people have made it a responsibility to live off of others through incessant begging.

One of yet friends sent me a text message one morning that I should send twenty thousand Naira to his account that he needs it urgently and that I should send it now. Can you imagine? As if he gave me any money to keep for him or as if I am owning me. I was so angry at his audacity.

Moreover that period I didn’t have a dime to my name. He had actually done that twice and I keep wondering who raised these people. Begging with pride. That’s so annoying.

The one that annoys me the most is that someone who has cut off from you so many years ago finally comes to your dm to reconnect with you only to beg you for money. Like bro. And they don’t stop begging. So you remembered me only for billing purposes? After all these years.

Asking for help isnt bad at all but the timing and mannerisms makes a whole lot of difference. I think is rather an act of pride to think that we don’t need help from people. Some persons would rather die than let people help them while some people actually become leeches through asking for help.

The most important thing about this is simply finding the balance, life is all about balance. Don’t be too proud to ask for help when needed and be careful of the manner in which you ask and on the other hand, don’t over ask either.

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